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Being Japanese

Published November 27, 2008 by gaijinmama

Many Japanese people assume that just because I’m married to a Japanese national and have lived here for such a long time, I must have Japanese citizenship.  Most people have no idea how difficult it is to become Japanese.  There are many people who were born in Japan, who grew up here, speaking Japanese, who do not have Japanese passports.  I’m thinking of ethnic Koreans, but there are also a lot of kids born out of wedlock to foreign mothers and Japanese fathers who have not been granted citizenship. 

According to the law as it stands now, in order for such a child to be granted citizenship, a Japanese father must recognize paternity during the mother’s pregnancy.    If the father steps forward after the child’s already been born, it’s too late, unless he marries the mother before the kid turns 20. 

A revised Nationality Law is expected to clear the Diet this week.  This amendment would allow children born out of wedlock to Japanese men and foreign women to become Japanese citizens even if the father claims paternity after birth.  However, some lawmakers worry that this will create a black market in false paternity recognition.  Hello?  Has anyone heard of DNA testing??

One guy went so far as to say, “If a law like this is misused, what will happen to the Japanese identity?”

What is Japanese identity, anyway?  To me, it sounds as though Japanese nationality is meant to be an exclusive club, based on bloodlines and conformity.  To me, this comment reeks of xenophobia.  Perhaps Japanese identity should include a sense of responsibility for children sired out of wedlock, instead of a sense that foreign women are money-grubbing wanna-be-immigrant opportunists.

The expat Korean-American author Min Jin Lee put it well when she told the magazine Tokyo Families, ”The people here are very kind, polite, and really well intended.  But no one becomes Japanese. You can become an American. I think that’s a humongous difference.”  

Joe the Writer

Published November 27, 2008 by gaijinmama

This is just wrong, somehow.  I know so many hard-working writers who don’t have book deals yet, but have something important to say.  And I can’t believe people will be rushing out to buy this book (which will be ghost-written, no doubt).

It’s Like This

Published November 26, 2008 by gaijinmama

The day before yesterday she misplaced her purse.  Believing it stolen, she called the police.  Later, she found it locked in a cabinet in her house.

Earlier today, she told me that while in America people may just take what they want from others, here, it is not done.  She believed that I was stealing her best dishes and that an acquaintance was coming on a motorbike in the middle of the night to take the dishes away.

“Where would that person take them to?” I asked her.

“That’s just it,” she said, equally baffled.  “I don’t know.”

Next week she will be visiting her doctor.

Multi-culti Japan

Published November 14, 2008 by gaijinmama

So according to today’s Japan Times, the Liberal Democratic Party is having thoughts about making dual citizenship legal in Japan.  (At present, kids with dual status are supposed to choose one or the other when they are twenty-two.)  However, there’s no big rush:

“The panel will scrutinize the proposal, but there is no time limit to formalize it as ‘this is not something that needs to be done anytime soon,’ he said.”

Also interesting was the proposal that those who do not declare their dual nationalities should be punished, possibly by having their Japanese nationality stripped away.  A bit harsh, no?

Read the article here.

One Big Happy Family

Published November 10, 2008 by gaijinmama

I’m very excited about Rebecca Walker’s new book, an anthology called One Big Happy Family.  As we all know by now, modern families come in many shapes and sizes…and colors.  ZZ Packer writes about being the mother of a light-skinned baby, while Dawn Friedman writes about adopting a black child.  asha bandele writes about having a baby with a man who is in prison.  There’s also an essay by Min Jin Lee, whom I interviewed a few months ago for J-Select Magazine, on her relationship with her child’s caretaker, and an essay by Susan McKinney de Ortega, who married a Mexican teenager  and had a couple kids with him.  AND, I contributed an essay on my own family.

Check it out!!

Playing for Papa!

Published November 7, 2008 by gaijinmama

I’ve been sort of low key about this, not wanting to detract from my novel and anthology, but now I’m ready to announce the publication of my first picture book, Playing for Papa, by Topka Books in Spain – a multicultural story for our new multicultural age.  The book is in both English and Spanish, and was illustrated by Yuka Hamano of Japan, who has authored several of her own books, and illustrated books by literary luminary Ryu Murakami. 

Order now, and your copies will arrive in time for Christmas!!

It Takes a Village

Published November 5, 2008 by gaijinmama

In Meg Wolitzer’s brilliant novel, The Ten Year Nap, there’s a scene where a bunch of NYC mothers are gathered in a cafe.  One leaves her baby with the others for a moment, and the baby starts crying.  To calm the baby down, the mother holding the baby impulsively opens her shirt and starts nursing to the horror of the other mothers.  Which is sort of like what happened today.

After my daughter’s open class at the deaf school, there was a meeting.  There are currently three nursing mothers in the elementary school.  One came in with two babies – her own, in a sling, and another mother’s, on her hip.  Apparently, the grandfather was supposed to be looking after the second baby while her mother was at work, but he ditched the baby with the sling mother.  The baby started crying.  She looked at me for awhile, but no matter who she looked at, she cried.  I don’t think it was me this time.

No one seemed to know when the baby’s mother would be back.  Some other mothers changed her diaper and tried to spoon feed her, but she wouldn’t stop crying.  Finally, the mother with the sling handed her own baby over to another mother and nursed the crying baby.

Perhaps I am outing myself here as a goody-goody Midwestern conservative mom, but I have to say that I was shocked.  The other mothers went on about the power of breast milk (the baby did finally calm down after that) and seemed totally nonplussed.  Even the baby’s real mother, when she finally showed up, seemed completely unphased by the whole thing.

Me, I would have been livid.

Party of One

Published November 5, 2008 by gaijinmama

This morning I had a class in Tokushima City , and this afternoon there was an open class at Lilia’s school, but I came home to track election results.  Tears came into my eyes.  I was thrilled and relieved and proud to be an American.  I wanted to whoop and holler, but there was no one to celebrate with.  Most of the people I know around here are either Australian or Canadian – or Japanese, of course.

Nevertheless, I cooked a special dinner and bought a bottle of champagne.

Viva Obama!!!!!!!

Suzanne’s Choice

Published November 1, 2008 by gaijinmama

People often ask me how I chose my publisher(s).  Why, indeed?  Why didn’t I choose Knopf or Random House or one of those other fancy New York houses?  This question implies that it’s a seller’s market out there, that I could have had my pick of publishers, but it doesn’t really work that way unless you’re J.K. Rowling or Stephen King.

A better question might be “Why did you decide to submit your manuscript to Publisher X?”  That one I can answer.  My agent sold my novel to Leapfrog Press, but I submitted my other books myself after having a look at the other books they published, and how they published them.  Stone Bridge Press was an obvious choice for my first anthology, a collection of fiction by expatriates in Japan.  They are good are marketing in their niche, and their books are always beautifully produced.  Plus, they’ve published books by other writers I admire. 

Beacon Press, on the other hand, has a reputation for publishing books with a social conciousness.  They’ve published books concerning special needs and several anthologies, and also quite a bit of poetry.  Since my anthology, Love You to Pieces includes a number of poems, I was keen to find a publisher that wasn’t afraid of poetry.  Also, I’d read some of Beacon’s books, and I knew that they were widely reviewed and have received many awards.  I have the utmost respect for what they do.  But make no mistake: Beacon chose my book, not the other way around.

If you’re a writer looking for a publisher, my advice is to do some research.  Check out various publishers’ catalogs, read some of their books, try to find out how those books were marketed.  And then find an agent, and/or submit, submit, submit.

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